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Thank You with Alexandra Amor

August 14, 2019 By Alexandra Amor

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“ThankThis will be the final episode of the Stop Suffering About podcast. In the show, I explain what led to this decision, how the three principles have changed my life and why it matters to me to make decisions like this, which may seem counter-intuitive or counter-productive from the outside, when I feel life is calling me in a new direction.

You can listen to the podcast by pressing play above, or listen on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app. Below are the show highlights and full transcript.

Show Notes

  • A bit of background on how the Stop Suffering About podcast came to be
  • An explanation about why the show is coming to an end
  • Sharing about how that decision came about and why it feels right
  • Living with the flow of life rather than fighting against it
Alexandra Amor

Alexandra Amor is an award-winning, Amazon bestselling author. You can learn more about her books and about what she’s up to currently at AlexandraAmor.com.

The Joy of Being Unashamedly Human with Jacquie Forde

August 7, 2019 By Alexandra Amor

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“unashamedlyWhat does being ‘unashamedly human’ mean to you? To me, it means embracing all that I am and fully exploring the human experience. We seem to spend a big chunk of our lives feeling ashamed or embarrassed about ourselves, or judging ourselves for who we are. What if there were another way, a kinder way, a gentler way? Coach Jacquie Forde is sure that there is and in this conversation we touch on how the understanding of the Three Principles can show us that being unashamedly human is part of the joy of life.


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 Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app, or watch the video here. Below are the show highlights and full transcript.

Show Notes

  • The importance of making room for our own insights
  • Stopping the search for answers and settling into a place of peace
  • What being unashamedly human means to Jacquie
  • Navigating life with grace rather than trying to have a perfect life
  • Why the unknown is not as scary as we sometimes think it is
  • How our minds attach stories to anything outside the now

Jacquie Forde is an intuitive loving kick-ass international coach. She has professional qualifications in nursing, midwifery, shamanic healing, NLP, hypnosis, and the Three Principles.

Jacquie brings a spirited personality and vivacious humorous attitude to her work as a coach and mentor and regularly works with politicians, organizational leaders, entrepreneurs, fellow coaches and women of all ages. Jacquie is also the host of The Unashamedly Human podcast, which is a podcast designed to help people get out of their heads and into their hearts sharing and understanding of the mind known as the Three Principles alongside other spiritual teachings.

You can find Jacquie at JacquieForde.com.

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Animal Communication and Metaphors for Our Human Experience with Verena Debnar

July 17, 2019 By Alexandra Amor

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“animalIt wasn’t my intention when I booked this interview with Verena Debnar, but once we got chatting the idea of animals being a metaphor for our own human experience came alive. I loved exploring this with Verena, and also talking about her work with animals, her work with her partner around the subject of money, and her own exploration of being an entrepreur.

It’s a wide-ranging interview. Enjoy!

In the introduction to the show, I mention this blog post from Barbara Patterson which talks about the spiritual nature of transformation.

You can listen to the podcast by pressing play above, or listen on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app, or watch the video here. Below are the show highlights and full transcript.

Show Notes

  • Working in animal communication
  • The remembering feeling when learning about the Three Principles
  • Slowing down to connect with the peace that is at our core
  • Lessons from animals about letting Thought flow through us without getting attached to it

Resources mentioned in this episode

  • Michael Neill’s website
  • Creating the Impossible book
Verena Debnar

Verena Debnar is working together with her fiancee in his business around educating people about our money system, how we can secure our savings, and what it has to do with our state of mind.

And then there is her other passion around horses, animals and communicating with nature. And while these two subjects look unrelated they really are not. Verena is fascinated to find out more about this connection and helping other people explore their own potential and live more joyful lives.

You can find Verena at Meinnachsterschritt.wordpress.com

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Why Seeing What’s Universal Can Help You On A Personal Level

July 15, 2019 By Alexandra Amor

“personalWhen we see that what’s going on for us is not personal, we hold our experience more lightly. When we do that we live with more ease and less suffering.

Three Principles teachers and coaches often talk about ‘what is built into our design’ as human beings.

They point to what is universal among us, things like:

  • how thought comes to life within us, moment to moment and then moves on
  • how we live in the feeling of our thinking, not in the feeling of our experience
  • how we are designed to return to a place of peace and calm and that we don’t need to do anything to make that happen
  • how the more we interfere with the natural flow of the formless (thought) coming to life within us, the more we suffer
  • how wisdom and insight show up for all of us
  • how we are all, without exception, whole and well at our essence
  • how every one of us has access to the peace and well-being at that essence, no matter what we’ve experienced 

The old paradigms of psychology looks at each of our experiences as unique and focuses on how those experiences can make us feel broken.

But when we focus on what’s universal within all of us it helps us to struggle less with our experience. When we know that thoughts are going to come to life within us and then move on, we can grip less tightly to those thoughts.

For me, there is a sense of deep calm that comes with knowing that what I’m experiencing at any given moment is simply part of the human experience. It doesn’t mean I’m broken or damaged in any way. 

sun and clouds

I keep coming back to the metaphor about the weather because it’s so easy to see the parallels there and illustrate what I’m trying to share. We all know that when the sun is obscured by clouds that doesn’t mean it’s gone forever.

We know that when there’s a thunderstorm it might be loud and ferocious in the moment, but that it will pass. This understanding of how weather works – for everyone, all over the planet, no exceptions – means that we don’t freak out every time it rains.

An understanding of your human design does the same thing. When you get into a thought storm, like the one we talked about recently, you can hold that storm more lightly and not let it derail your life. 

When we make our experiences personal, as though we are different than everyone else and our problems are unique, then we get caught up in our thoughts and worries and fears about that situation. We innocently add extra layers of thought and worry to what we’re experiencing. 

When we’re focused on the specific colour and flavour of our particular ‘problems’ we miss seeing that our design as human beings is always self-correcting and that we are wired for peace and well-being.

highway interchange

For example, I took Nicola Bird’s 12-week course on anxiety. The majority of the people in the class seemed to have experiences of panic attacks and not being able to drive on highways and things like that.

My ‘brand’ of anxiety is nothing like that. For me it’s like a low-level hum in my body all the time. I’ve never had a panic attack in my life, but I have lived with a constant feeling of unease and fear. 

If I had been caught up in and focused on how my anxiety was different than most of what was being described, I’d have missed learning that anxiety is caused by sped up thinking and an innocent misunderstanding about where my experience comes from.

I’m not a unique snowflake. My design is the same as everyone’s. By looking at what’s universal I was able to see that if I leave my thinking alone, it will settle down all by itself. And by beginning to see that I live in the experience of whatever I’m thinking, I’m able to hold my thoughts more lightly.

Here’s another example. If you fall and skin your knee that wound will heal. Your body will immediately and automatically do what it needs to do to begin the healing process for that cut or scrape. If you didn’t know that you might freak out.

snowflake

And by comparing your cut to someone else’s you’re simply layering heaps of unnecessary thinking onto a natural, self-correcting process. “How will my cut get fixed? Your cut is on your arm, but mine is on my knee. That’s different! My knee is different than your arm so it might not heal in the same way. Eeek!”

But when you know that all cuts heal in the same way, you relax and let your body do its job. It doesn’t matter if the cut is on your head or your arm or your knee, the healing will take place in the same way.

It’s the same with your experience of thought. Once you know where that’s coming from, it doesn’t matter if it’s anxious thinking that’s in the form of a panic attack or in the form of a consistent low-grade hum.

It can be challenging at times to turn our attention away from ourselves and our personal experience and look toward what is universal. But what I’m seeing these days is that seeing the universal is one of the keys to connecting with peace of mind.

Are you able to see how looking toward what is universal among all humans can help you on an individual level? Please leave your thoughts below and join the conversation.

[Poppies image courtesy Corina Ardeleanu and Unsplash. Sun and clouds image courtesy chuttersnap and Unsplash. Highway image courtesy _M_V_ and Unsplash. Snowflake image courtesy Darius Cotoi and Unsplash.]

The Answer is to Stop Searching for Answers

June 24, 2019 By Alexandra Amor

Most of us having something we’re searching for.

“stopA different body. A better marriage. A fatter bank-account. Less anxiety. More confidence. Less shame.

I don’t know about you but for years I spent a lot of time chasing the specific things I was after. Looking for solutions to what I perceived as the problems of my life. That’s where self-help books and strategies came in.

But what if the solutions to the challenges that we’re chasing are not where we’re looking?

Here’s a specific example:

Throughout my life I’ve been, shall we say, financially challenged. Always living paycheque to paycheque, without savings and sometimes without the means to pay my bills. Part of this is rooted in the decade-long fixation I had on earning a living writing fiction, which didn’t work out, financially at least. It left me deeply in debt and, financially worse off in my early 50s than I was in my early 20s.

I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about money and thinking about ways to solve the problems I feel I’ve created. This chase is oriented outside myself. 

hound dog

I’m like a hound dog on the scent, tail up, nose down, galloping along trying to find the thing I’m looking for. My logical brain says that once I find that thing – in this example, financial stability – I’ll feel at peace and whole.

What if we’re already whole?

We chase the wind, trying to find solutions to what we believe is broken inside us. But what if there’s no need for that chase at all? 

If action was the answer, wouldn’t we be fixed by now? I lost track a long time ago of the number of self-help books I’ve read. Those well-intentioned books and authors only caused me to be more focused on my perceived brokenness. The list of strategies I employed to manage my feelings and change my behavior became so extensive it could have filled a book of its own.

For self-help junkies like us, the search, the chase, can become almost addictive. It feels like we have to be doing something in order to create positive change in our lives.

Set the problem down

Since coming across the Three Principles, what I keep being reminded of is that when I feel I have a ‘problem’ the solution is to set it down. 

raindrop on leaf

That seems counter-intuitive, and sometimes it’s very hard to convince my brain, which loves solving problems, to let things go and stop trying to fix them. But again and again, I’m reminded that chasing answers isn’t the answer.  Ironically the chase ends up leading us farther away from what we seek.

Wisdom always lies inside us. It is always there for us. No matter what.

What I seem to need most to learn is to stop chasing around outside myself and instead slow down, wait, and listen. 

When you have a problem to solve, are you able to see the wisdom in not chasing the answer? Please leave your thoughts below and join the conversation.

[Woman sitting image courtesy Myles Tan and Unsplash. Hound photo courtesy Adam Muise and Unsplash. Rain drop image courtesy Ed Leszczynski and Unsplash.]

Exploring the Power and Possibilities in the Unknown with Dawn Krieger

June 12, 2019 By Alexandra Amor

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“DawnWe all have access, all the time, to wisdom and well-being. The paradox of life is that we so often are unaware that this is so. I’ve only just begun to figure it out myself. Our busy minds seem to have a habit of convincing us that they have all the answers. But there’s another way to live our lives that is more peaceful and less fraught.

In today’s interview, Dawn Krieger brings that home with examples from her own life as well as her experiences working with clients.

In the introduction I mention being on a webinar last week with Christian McNeill. Click here to listen and watch. (My dear friend Lorraine makes a surprise appearance!)

Dawn Krieger

Dawn Krieger is a transformational life coach, workshop facilitator, and Three Principles practitioner. She started her journey as a social worker out of college and learned a lot about the resilience of the human spirit, compassion and personal well-being.

She shifted to individual and group coaching while getting her master’s in Spiritual Psychology at the University of Santa Monica. Dawn experiences a great joy when she sees her clients connect back into their personal truth, listening more consistently to how their well-being is always guiding them, and seeing them live life from the good feeling within as they slow down and listen.

You can find Dawn at DawnKriegerCoaching.com

You can listen above or on iTunes or your favorite podcast app. Below are the show highlights and full transcript.

Show Notes

  • From healing to working in construction and back again
  • Approaching a solopreneur business with a relaxed state of mind
  • Listening to our own wisdom while growing a coaching practice
  • The simple work of redirecting clients to see their own wisdom and well-being
  • Focusing on the fun and creativity in business, rather than feeling pressure
  • The power found in the unknown
  • How our state of mind affects how we feel about the unknown
  • On beginning to trust even the uncomfortable moments
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